tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9912774.post5975034404993699932..comments2023-10-24T10:45:07.876-04:00Comments on Kudzu, Mon Amour: where this blackgrrl stands, part two -- "interracial dating" and the cool guyQueen Estherhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07524984418016215108noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9912774.post-41959681995382441602007-12-02T09:20:00.000-05:002007-12-02T09:20:00.000-05:00faboo -- thank you so much for your gracious offer...faboo -- thank you so much for your gracious offer! the help you've offered is all the more reason for me to do it. <BR/><BR/>we're going to have to talk offline about my documentary idea. i'm quite serious. i think that this topic bears further exploration and we all know that if we wait for "them" to do it, it'll <B>never</B> happen.Queen Estherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07524984418016215108noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9912774.post-53025405047937964592007-12-02T05:06:00.000-05:002007-12-02T05:06:00.000-05:00faboo, men of LA seem to have zero love for black ...faboo, men of LA seem to have zero love for black women and I seriously believe that they've bonded over this, becoming the army whose mission it is to bring back black love. They are angered by anyone whose relationship clashes with their mission. <BR/><BR/>I have several friends from LA. The city is a fishbowl and I really think EVERYONE there is shallow. It's not just the black women asking how much you make and what car you drive. That's everyone.Aud Reyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08522045167336751647noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9912774.post-83566244351743306372007-12-01T23:45:00.000-05:002007-12-01T23:45:00.000-05:00LOL...I have to admit I got a weave once just to s...LOL...I have to admit I got a weave once just to see what the hype was about. I looked like a fat Tina Turner and my husband begged me to get rid of it. It lasted about 5 days. Way too much work.<BR/><BR/>BTW, I gave you a h/t in <A HREF="http://faboomama.blogspot.com/2007/12/msnbcs-african-american-women-where.html" REL="nofollow">my recent blogpost</A> and quoted a bit o' you. If it wasn't for your blog, I wouldn't have heard about the MSNBC special. I finally watched the clips online and I'm waiting for a friend to get the original airings. That wasn't a good thing they did there. Wasn't it you that mentioned that you should make the documentary? I saw go for it and I'll be more than happy to supply Black women from across the nation for it. Hell, I'll even make you a website for free!faboo mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16672381991213375002noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9912774.post-66671310814264728112007-12-01T22:53:00.000-05:002007-12-01T22:53:00.000-05:00trecia -- i don't care who you're seeing. dating ...trecia -- i don't care who you're seeing. dating is hard, period. i think it's something you have to practice, like a piano, before you can be truly good at it. and like playing the piano, dating takes work. <I>and discipline</I>. hang in there. <BR/><BR/>faboo -- your husband is (johnny dep!) gorgeous and you're not a size 2 with a weave? that explains everything! no wonder they're staring at you. <BR/><BR/>heh-heh. you're probably glowing with happiness...Queen Estherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07524984418016215108noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9912774.post-55040728683073734732007-12-01T21:46:00.000-05:002007-12-01T21:46:00.000-05:00Hmmm...I think many of them are staring because I'...Hmmm...I think many of them are staring because I'm fat, nappy and happy <B>and</B> got a man. Meanwhile, they're spending all their cash on "looking the part" and--I'm sorry, but too many black women in LA are so incredibly shallow--wanting to know what a man makes, what he drives, what he can give her. No man, no person, no matter the race would want to do deal with that. <BR/><BR/>I think the stares may also have to do with the fact that people think my husband looks like Johnny Depp, so there's a lot of doube takes. <BR/><BR/>But yeah, being a black woman in LA is hard. I had friends who were born and raised here, but live in the Bay Area for awhile. When they moved back down here, that was all they complained about. One, I was like, "You are not gonna find your Black King you're looking for if you're always out with the gay white couple." And the other already has a man, she just wanted attention she got up in the Bay Area. BTW, they're both back up in the Bay Area. But both of them had dreads, no makeup, not stick thin. The only guys they'd both attract are white guys who admittedly only date "the sistas".faboo mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16672381991213375002noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9912774.post-23742377081793432122007-12-01T20:59:00.000-05:002007-12-01T20:59:00.000-05:00Good Post... Its true what you said. I guess since...Good Post... Its true what you said. I guess since i'm from the west indies, men from there don't really mind how you wear your hair or maybe its the ones i come across.... Dating out side my race, its hard but i'm still young so we will see how that goes.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9912774.post-82024551209429792452007-11-30T20:52:00.000-05:002007-11-30T20:52:00.000-05:00wow. i have to tell you -- i think eastern europea...wow. i have to tell you -- i think eastern european men are highly underrated. <BR/><BR/>that said -- artists are generally the ones who live unconventional lives and as a black woman, your union would read as such on the left coast, no matter how "normal" a life you have. <BR/><BR/>LA is a cold place to be as a black woman if you don't fit in with that eurocentric ideal of beauty. good for you, that you've found happiness. <BR/><BR/>btw: did you ever think that maybe the black women are staring out of jealousy?Queen Estherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07524984418016215108noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9912774.post-50147515263833205732007-11-30T20:28:00.000-05:002007-11-30T20:28:00.000-05:00Reading this post, I'm shaking my head in agreemen...Reading this post, I'm shaking my head in agreement. Black guys never wanted anything to do with me because of the lack of makeup, straightened hair (or weave when I had my hair straighted, it was short), or any other Glammed Black Woman image they've been forced-fed on. That's not my problem. <BR/><BR/>I will say this, my husband is from Romania and here in LA, I get stares. From black women. Black men, don't even bat an eye. Granted they're usually with a Latina or Asian woman, but black women don't like it and just stare. What I've found is that because of my hair and our coupling, people just assume we're artist-types. Isn't that strange?faboo mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16672381991213375002noreply@blogger.com